When acting in line with what feels right
✉️ Originally shared in my February newsletter 2026— now available here for easy access and sharing.
4 uncomfortable feelings you can expect and how to meet them
I don’t know about you, but January swept me away — and suddenly it’s February :)
After New Year, my weeks have been filled with working as a ski instructor for functional skiing, guiding a retreat for women entrepreneurs (Wild Women Retreat), coaching, and wrapping up the last part of the community membership.
I love the contrasts. But what I love even more are the quiet reminders I keep bringing with me from all of it. Because no matter the setting, the people I meet all have something in common:
they want or need something and they dare to go for it.
On the slopes, it’s about daring to try, falling, getting back up — again and again. Being able to ski matters far more than how it looks. And what always strikes me is their attitude:
“I haven’t done this before. It’s hard. But why wouldn’t I be able to?”
At the retreat, it was about inspiration instead of comparison. That support doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you braver. About trusting your gut. That subtle feeling when something is a right or a bit off — a direction, a collaboration, something you’re about to say yes to. That inner signal that often gets drowned out when we start listening too much to everything and everyone else.
In coaching, and in the community, I keep seeing what happens when we say things out loud and feel support. When we stop assuming. When we share the messy thoughts instead of trying to solve problems that might not even exist. Somehow, clarity shows up when we dare to hear ourselves speak.
What all these moments have reminded me of is this:
Acting in line with what feels right rarely feels calm or comfortable in the moment.
Often, it comes with uncomfortable feelings. Doubt. Guilt. Fear. Sometimes even sadness.
And when those feelings show up, many of us do the opposite of what we need. We speed up. We look outward for answers. We try to think our way out of something that actually needs to be felt.
So this month, I want to share a few reminders about the uncomfortable emotions that often come up when we try to trust ourselves — and how we can meet them instead of moving away from them.
4 uncomfortable feelings you can expect and how to meet them
Shame
Shame often shows up when we slow down, take things away, or choose a different pace than the ones around us. When we think differently than others. When we believe we are alone in what we experience, want, need, or think.
A gentle reminder: Slowing down to enable prioritizing, give perspective and direct your ambition is smart, not wrong just different to what your brain are used to! Tip is to try and say the things you feel ashamed of out loud to someone you trust. I promise you are not alone and the limiting effect of it disappears.
Guilt
Guilt can creep in when we say no to people or things, choose ourselves first, or don’t give as much as we think others or ourselves expect.
Try reminding yourself why you’re making this choice and shift your focus to the things you actually are doing — instead of everything you’re not.
Fear
Fear of failing. Of being misunderstood. Of realising you can’t do it all. Not being good enough.
Fear doesn’t mean your gut is wrong. It often just means you’re stepping outside an old pattern.
A helpful reminder: you don’t need to have all the answers or solutions to dare. What you do need is trust in your ability to handle what will come. Prepare yourself for what could happen, yes — but also give yourself the right prerequisites: support, rest, perspective, and self-compassion.
Sadness or Dissapointment
Disappointment is often grief in disguise. Not just over what didn’t happen — but over who we thought we would be by now, how it would feel, or how others would show up.
A gentle reminder: You don’t “get over” disappointment by pushing it away. You release it by acknowledging the “loss” and renegotiating the expectation.
So this week: Slow down enough to hear yourself, your intuition rarely shouts in a noisy life.
Take a moment this week to ask yourself:
What do I actually want and need right now — if I listen inward before looking outward?
